Pastor’s Perspective 05-07-19
Some things are just too good not to share. Two years ago, I read “An Open Letter to Pastors” written by a “non-mom” about honoring mothers on Mother’s Day. Her name is Amy Young. She met a woman who doesn’t go to church on Mother’s Day because it is too hurtful. This particular woman had been married, had numerous miscarriages, divorced and was now beyond child bearing years. Amy also told of her own experiences in church on Mother’s Day when the pastor asked all the mothers to stand and how that can be an awkward moment for other women in attendance for any number of reasons. Her words struck a chord with me. In anticipation of next Sunday, I want to share a portion of her open letter with you.
To those who gave birth this year to their first child – we celebrate with you. To those who lost a child this year – we mourn with you. To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains – we appreciate you. To those who experienced loss through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running away – we mourn with you. To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment – we walk with you. To those who are foster moms, mentor moms, and spiritual moms – we need you. To those who have warm and close relationships with your children, we celebrate with you. To those who have disappointment, heartache, and distance with your children – we sit with you. To those who lost their mothers this year – we grieve with you. To those who experienced abuse at the hands of your own mother – we acknowledge your experience. To those who lived through driving tests, medical tests, and the overall testing of mothering – we are better for having you in our midst. To those who are single and long to be married and mothering your own children – we mourn that life has not turned out the way you longed for it to be. To those who step-parent – we walk with you on these complex paths. To those who envisioned lavishing love on grandchildren, yet that dream is not to be – we grieve with you. To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming year – we grieve and rejoice with you. To those who placed children up for adoption – we commend you for your selflessness and remember how you hold that child in your heart. And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprising – we anticipate with you. This Mother’s Day, we acknowledge – and love – all of you.
See you Sunday! ~ John